No excuses!

So I pick up my phone to write a blog post, and waaa! goes my 6 months old and I just put him down to sleep. Phew!

Blogging can be quite challenging when you have a baby to attend to. You have little or no time to research, read, edit or even put up a blog post. However, my motivation for putting up this blog is to just do it, so NO EXCUSES!

I would do it one at a time, slowly but surely I would achieve, and one day I would be glad I did.

How to become a Go-Getter Girl

While keeping track of your New Year resolutions, see here. Here is something to help you be a Go-Getter girl this year.

Often, you have heard; "She's such a go-getter", perhaps to describe a friend, sister or colleague, and how you admire them and wish to be like them.

A go-getter is an aggressively enterprising person who works very hard/smart and who wants very much to succeed. She is strategic in decision making and wants to make a lasting impression or positive mark on her friends, family, work and the world.

To be a go-getter girl, 

Firstly, you need to just do it!

Yes, the go-getter is the person who acts now, not tomorrow, and thinks in short-terms.

They are proactive, not reactive. They shape their own destiny and never allow themselves to fall prey to the so-called external circumstances.

So are there any plans/Vision you have in mind to achieve this year? Do it already!

Note that a vision is not the same as a plan; a vision is more broad-based and fluid, whereas a plan is much more structured. Working with a vision in mind is very helpful, as it allows us to take a deep dive into the future, and almost, work backwards to figure out what we should be doing today if we want to achieve our vision 5, 10, or even 20 years from now.

Ask yourself always “What is the smallest next step”, “What do I need to do now, to get things going?” Do it! Set the ball rolling.

Believe that something within you is greater to overcome the obstacles that may obscure the road to success.

Every go-getter girl believes that she has strengths and capabilities that help her jump over all the hurdles in her path. There are roadblocks we face every single day, times that make us lose hope, give up, or even quit. But, in those times, we have to channel our inner go-getter girl and believe that we, quite simply, are better than this, and that our purpose is far greater than what we may even think. Ultimately, becoming confident in ourselves and believing that we can succeed is a good step to becoming a go-getter girl.

Love what you do

Key to getting off your feet and kicking some ass is simply doing what you’re good at and what you love.  Be passionate about what you do. Give it your best shot. Your passion keeps you fired and going, do not go about being grumpy and all. The same is true for relationships. It is not very attractive to be with someone who spends his time complaining about what he/she does for a living.

It is equally important to integrate some of our passion to our profession/vocation. For some of us, it may be golf, and for others it is dance. Whatever it may be, we should hold on to our passions and find a way to integrate them into our profession/vocation. I have always noticed that the go-getters regularly manage to combine their passions into their work so that they are fulfilled and happy. Making sure that we focus on our passions even at work enables us to feel enriched, excited, and very enthusiastic. 

What are the qualities that make you a go-getter girl? Comments are welcome!

Keeping Track Of Resolutions

Hello friends!

It is 13 days since New year; You probably made resolutions; decided to start/stop doing some things, do some differently and the list goes on...

Some people however, do not make new year resolutions at all.

So, How is it going?

The thing with New year resolutions are that, they most times are hard to keep up with and are forgotten easily. As a matter of fact, as you read this, there is a possibility that you have given up already after 13 days, and by mid year everyone has abandoned their resolutions.

But, Hey! No one  said  resolutions would be easy to keep: that's probably why you made one in the first place.

Here are some few tips on keeping track with your resolutions:

• Keep resolutions simple: do not make vague resolutions like: I want to be a better person. Write out the things that would make you a better person and take little steps to getting there, for example: Today, I want to smile more often. Also keeping it simple could mean not having to make an all year resolutions that you cannot keep up with, instead, you can make monthly goals/ resolutions.
• Take it one -at- a time: One can get overwhelmed easily by trying to do everything or make the changes all at a time, so it is best to take them one at a time.
• Celebrate your little accomplishments and do not beat yourself too much if you fail, just dust yourself up and try again.
• Set timelines: Think about your entire year and the benchmarks you want to see over that time. It can be weekly, monthly or quarterly and work towards achieving them. 
• Have a constant review of your resolution- accomplishment; this helps to keep you in track.

And while you are at this, remember to Live The Life You Love Phenomenally...

Happy New Year

Yay! It's year 2015.

Wishing you a Happy New Year.

May this year be your best year yet, may it be filled with many beautiful surprises and wonderful achievements.

My personal theme for the year is Transformation and upliftment. What's yours?

Do have a blessed year!

Thankful!

Year 2014 is coming to a close already!

I started this year in high hopes and made it a year of gratitude. I said to my self, "I would count my blessings and name them one by one."

I thank God for the gift of life,

... for good health of mind and body

... for my family; the best husband, adorable children

... for good friends and loved ones

... for providence; Clothe, food, shelter

... for inspiration, motivation and life's experiences

... for God's favour, mercies and unending love

... for everything

This year also hit me with a great loss. I chose not to count this as loss. but I am grateful to God for He says that we should be thankful in ALL things.

In all, I am grateful to God for 2014 and I look forward to a better year 2015.

I wish everyone a Happy new year in advance and pray that year 2015 would be a year where visions would be made clear, decisions made, actions taken, miracles received, hope restored and dreams would be fulfilled.

To a prosperous year ahead...

Cheers!

Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship is any association between two or more people that is harmful or damaging to one or more of the parties involved in ways that constantly drains one’s energy in both obvious and subtle ways.

Relationships should be founded on admiration, acceptance, mutual respect and appreciation( this list not exhaustive), but can in time become unhealthy and take on a poisonous aura. 

Toxic relationships interfere with those involved. It makes living a productive and healthy life difficult.

Toxicity in a relationship is caused by the incompatibility of the persons involved in the relationship.  

In some cases, there is no one to blame for the toxicity, rather the toxicity is caused by the inability to commune and establish healthy boundaries.

In other cases, one party, targets and prey upon others for their own personal needs and gratification.  The prey is seeking to emotionally and psychologically dehydrate others, removing all that is possible for their own selfish benefits.  Such individuals have a manipulative style, and will frequently maneuver their way into any relationship that they perceive as beneficial. 

Toxic personalities are too self-absorbed and preoccupied with their own emotions, interests, needs, and goals to be aware of the needs, goals, interests and emotions of others. 

Toxicity can manifest in all forms of relationships;  Husband – Wife, Parent –Children, Sibling – Sibling, between friends, Dating relationships, In the workplace etc.

ARE YOU IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? 

Here are a few questions to engage your thoughts on

1. How does this person(s) make you feel?
2. Do you feel safe in their presence?
3. Do you feel your children, partners or others are safe?
4. Have you ever felt emotional or psychological distress when interacting with the person(s)?
5. Do you feel that you are always on guard around this individual?
6. Have you ever been caught in the web of their triangulation? 
7. Is the person manipulative or conniving? 
8. Have you ever felt the person may push moral, ethical, or legal boundaries?
9. Do you ever feel as though the person adds unnecessary challenges to your life?
10. Do you feel emotionally drained after dealing with the person?

Do you have any TOXIC relationship story? Please share with us.

Still Here...

Hello,

                      

I am still here. these past few weeks has been quite challenging for me, all in all I have learnt some life lessons.

My dad has been feeling quite not too good for a while and was managing well. I attributed it to the effect of things going on around him, an unhealthy relationship with his wife( My step mom; my mom is late. ), my elder ones not supporting financially etc. Lately, his illness had a bad turn and he is currently in the hospital.

My brothers as usual, have not been quite supportive in terms of finance and physical care. We the girls have been the one supporting financially all the while. 

My sisters are married and have young kids to attend to. I also have young kids. In all, I have  to visit the hospital during the week to give some moral support to my step mum and also finance most times.

I really feel for my Dad, this is when he needs the most support; physical care and love most importantly, and he is not getting it. 

I have talked to my brothers to at least try to help in the hospital as daddy is not mobile and needs support with mobility, feeding and personal hygiene but they are all claiming busy. I understand that they need to hustle, but really nothing tangible has come out of it. Medical bills keep coming and when i tell them about this bill, the response i get is an "OK", Are you kidding me? 

I spoke to Older relatives and a response I got from one of them was: "Male children are not wired to think that way, it is female children that takes care of the children." Another WOW! ( This aspect I would like to talk about another day.

Another said I should focus on my children and not worry so much, good advice and I guess she understands, knowing fully well my brothers' behavior. But can I really take my mind off it. It is beginning to take its toll on me, my chest aches, sleeplessness, headaches, etc.

 My dad is lying there in his old age and practically begging his children to support him. This is so sad! I just need my brothers to be more responsible. I don't mean in terms of finance alone, though we need all the money we can get now, but to show their love and care for their Father, who has been there for us all his life, now that he is old.

The bills keep piling, grateful to God we have been able to sort some of them, and more is still to come.  Like my Dad would say:

 IT IS WELL!

I pray that God in his infinite mercy, Look upon my father with mercy, grant him quick supernatural healing by the stripes of Jesus Christ. May he also forgive the sins of the family and help us to be united. May He bless the work of our hands, prosper my siblings and take afflictions far away from us in Jesus' name. Amen.